Happy 11th birthday in heaven to our first son Luke Hudson. A friend is writing a book and asked me for a quote on what baby loss is like, so I’ll share that in honor of Luke’s birthday today. ♥️
Losing a baby is like losing a thousand should-have-beens. All the dreams of who your child would be, all the details of their life, and the joys of your relationship. So many pieces left unknown, including even the color of his eyes. It was also like suddenly and painfully being shut out of a club I thought I was finally in, one that billions of women enter easily and even reluctantly. It felt like failing at something that everyone else did so easily. Every baby, pregnant belly and baby paraphernalia I came across hurt my heart for awhile. It is like forever having a phantom limb; a sense that some part of you is missing. It is also an extra longing for my heavenly home, where I will finally get to be with my son and learn all of the things that I wonder about him. Where I will finally get to hug him and know him. It is one thing that makes me thankful that this life is just a vapor compared to all of eternity.
Thank You, Lord, for the beautiful gift of both my sons. I trust Your plan, even when it’s hard.
Today, we had a long work day and got home late, but we did have a little cake to mark this birthday. See you soon, my son.